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Richard Bausch wins $30,000 Rea Award for short stories

NEW YORK - One of the country's top short story writers has won a $30,000 prize.

Richard Bausch, author of eight story collections and winner of numerous other honors, is this year's recipient of the Rea Award for the Short Story.

The prize, announced Thursday, is given for making a "significant contribution" to the art of short story writing. Bausch's books include "Something Is Out There" and "Someone to Watch Over Me." He also has written 11 novels and has been praised for his lyrical style and his insights into a wide a range of people and emotions.

The Rea Award was established in 1986. Previous winners include Eudora Welty, John Updike and Lorrie Moore.

By: Unknown On 17.55

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The Sex Top Secrets How To Put You In The mood For Sex

40 Ways That Will Definitely Put You in the Mood for Sex 

 
If you're one of those people who are always and forever in the mood for sex, then well done, you! But other women -- whether it's because they're tired, stressed, or just not into it -- need a bit of inspiration to get the juices flowing. We came up with 40 sexy ways that will put you in the mood for getting it on. There's no way you can make it though the whole list and not have sex on the brain.

1. Wear a super sexy bra and panties under your clothes during the day. By the time you get home you'll be all set for fun.

2. Take a hot bath. Then slip on a silky robe.

3. Slick on minty lip gloss. Anything on your lips will make you feel sexy, and you'll have fresh breath, too.

4. Shave your legs.

5. While you're at it, get a Brazilian bikini wax. Everything is more sensitive without all that hair in the way.

6. Take a 30-minute nap -- completely naked. You'll wake up refreshed and ready to go.

7. Show some skin -- but just a peek.

8. Add "new sex toy" to your shopping list and swing by the sex toy store next time you're out running errands -- just make sure it's the very last one.

9. Sexting isn't just for smarmy politicians. Send your lover a raunchy text message. Wait for a response.

10. "Forget" to wear undies on your next date.

11. Practice good posture to feel confident; sexiness will follow.

12. A little bit of PDA goes a long way.

13. Take a steamy bath. Afterwards, slather rose- or cucumber-scented lotion over your entire body. Either of those aphrodisiac scents will drive you insane.

14. Share one of your steamiest sexual fantasies with your partner; don't be stingy with the details.

15. Rock high heels and a short skirt. Just because.

16. Turn the lights low and light cinnamon- or vanilla-scented candles. Why those particular scents? Try it and see what happens.

17. Read an erotic book. When you get to the part that makes you blush, KEEP GOING.

18. Read the part of your erotic book that makes you blush the most out-loud to your partner.

19. Splurge on a flirty, seductive perfume; spritz your neck, behind your knees, and between your breasts.

20. Instead of stockings, wear thigh highs under your dress held up with a sexy lace garter.

21. Drink a half a glass of red wine -- just enough to help you relax, but not too much to make you drunk.

22. Bright red lipstick works like a charm.

23. Watch a sexy movie. What? Don't know any? Last Tango in Paris or Unfaithful are a good place to start.

24. Masturbate more. But don't go overboard! Find a good balance.

25. Clench your girl parts (i.e. do Kegels).

26. Sign up for a pole dancing or cardio strip-tease class; practice makes perfect!

27. Text your partner a descriptive play-by-play of everything you plan to do to him/her once you are alone.

28. Melt some dark chocolate. Dip strawberries (or other fruit) into the chocolate and feed to your lover. Demand (playfully) he/she do the same for you.

29. "Read up" on new sex positions online. Hey, you have to stay current.

30. Oysters and bubbly wine isn't just a cliche: It really works.

31. Do yoga.

32. Go to a strip club with your girlfriends. Seeing other women be sexy can do wonders for your own sexual self esteem.

33. Watch a Ryan Gosling movie.

34. Flirt with your super hot crush at the gym.

35. Think about sex. Stuck in traffic or in line at the grocery store? Fantasize about what you want your partner to do to you when you get home.

36. Treat yourself to a lingerie shopping trip. Try on a variety of options. Buy the one that makes you feel feminine, fierce, beautiful, and drop-dead sexy.

37. Get a massage.

38. Mentally replay the hottest night you and your partner spent together down to every last dirty detail. Repeat.

39. Tell your lover to take a sexy photo of himself/herself and text it to you during the day.

40. Do #39 for your lover.

By: Unknown On 03.13

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The Secrets How To Have The Hottest Sex In Your Life

50 Things You Can Try Tonight to Have the Hottest Sex 

In celebration of my latest book, Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight, I've decided to round up 50 sexy or sex-filled things that you can do -- easily. Well, depending on the kids and time, and without much prep, to help keep things cayenne-pepper hot in the sexy time department. And I want you to add to the list too, please!

Ready?
1.    Kiss like you did before you had ever done anything else.
2.    Breathe together, holding and hugging each other while you do it.
3.    Eat seductively. Really pay attention to how you lick ice cream or chew meat off a bone. 
4.    See how long you can stay turned on without taking any of your clothes off.
5.    Dry hump with your clothes, or at least your underwear, on.
6.    Rub your hair all over his body.
7.    For at least one minute, both of you stare into each other's eyes.
8.    Set up email accounts using aliases. Then send dirty emails and pictures to that account.
9.    Play a game of striptease.
10.    Collaborate on a piece of erotic writing or storytelling. You write/recite a paragraph, then your partner does the same. Go back and forth until you finish the story.
11.    Buy a pair of nitrile gloves and give your partner a gloved hand job. (Trust me, it feels different.)
12.    Wear a mask.
13.    Wear a wig.
14.    Try a new condom, heck, try the female condom.
15.    Use a string of pearls (plastic beads will do just fine), and masturbate his penis.
16.    Masturbate him with a banana peel. Try warming it in the microwave for five seconds for warmer, happier times.
17.    Use lube. Lots of lube.
18.    Use silicone lube and get it on in the shower.
19.    Be blindfolded or do the blindfolding.
20.    Find three things in the kitchen (like a spatula, wooden spoon, honey) that you can play with sensually.
21.    Fingerpaint each other's breasts.
22.    Rock around the clit. With your finger, go clockwise from 12 on back, and counterclockwise. See what time feels best.
23.    Rent a porn and reenact a scene.
24.    Masturbate for each other. Cheer, hoot, and holler for your lover.
25.    Read each other an erotic story from a sexy book.
26.    Play a board game but change the rules to make them sexy.
27.    Try a board game designed to inspire monogamy.
28.    Have sex in your car, even if it's parked in the garage.
29.    Squeeze your pelvic floor muscles around something or someone.
30.    Figure out a new sex position using pillows.
31.    Turn on an electric toothbrush ... use them on his, or her, nipples.
32.    Use any vibrator ... on him, in the area known as the perineum, between the bum and the balls.
33.    Have a sexy chat, either by video or text, and yes, even if you live together, do it from separate rooms.
34.    Have a contest to see who can come first, or who can hold out longest.
35.    Pick out your partner's outfit and dress them up before you dress them down.
36.    Buy a wireless vibrator and go out dancing, and let your husband or boyfriend control the remote.
37.    Have sex first thing in the morning.
38.    See how high you can bring your sex energy through breathing.
39.    Get kinky -- try light spanking or flogging.
40.    Try a vibrator built for two.
41.    Make love outdoors.
42.    Go on a date to a cheap hotel room.
43.    Pay your partner for sex.
44.    Give, or get, a lap dance.
45.    Slow dance like it's the first time, but not that first awkward time. Unless, of course, awkward turns you on.
46.    Write down some fantasies and put them in a hat. Then pick out a fantasy and act it out. Include a list of props in your fantasy.
47.    Give each other head rubs.
48.    Massage each other using a soy-based hot wax candle.
49.    Leave the lights on. Get naughty. If you feel extra frisky, leave the blinds open too.
50.    Make a meal out of aphrodisiac foods. Feed it to each other, or eat the food off one another.

By: Unknown On 02.57

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Orgasm Without Hands

The Hands-Free Orgasm

 
Is getting off without contact really possible?

Orgasms can be mysterious, mind-blowing, lengthy, elusive or—as we just learned—hands-free.

From Em & Lo comes the tale of a college freshman who attends a "How To Have A Genderless Orgasm" workshop in lieu of his art history class. Led by Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century, the students go through breathing, muscle-contracting and chakra-balancing exercises to reach climax.

"When the instructor gives the command, we’re to breathe 30 quick breaths in unison — it’s an individual exercise, yet we’re working as a group to achieve "orgasm." Heavy breathing, chests heaving, students moaning. Even the normally taciturn ones are sighing audibly. A tingling sensation starts in my lower belly and seems to travel up into my head (like, the head head, where my brain is). The music becomes a loud and powerful tribal chant. People begin to curl over into the fetal position. Climax is achieved!"

Orgasm without sex or masturbation? The mind is a powerful beast, indeed. As the blogger describes, the sensation wasn't exactly like the orgasms he's experienced before: "If this is an orgasm, it’s the strangest one I have ever had. (I’m not entirely convinced)." But, the post-climax serenity he experiences is unlike anything he's ever felt. True to Tantra, the goal of the "genderless orgasm" (for men) is not ejaculation but harnessing and getting pleasure from the body-connecting-with-Earth energy.

Extending or enhancing orgasm seems to be on many a short list; and using the power of the mind and breathing exercises, a G-spot shot or—gulp—Orajel and two condoms, are just some of the ways people are doing it.

By: Unknown On 02.52

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The Most Wanted Secrets How To Have A Stronger Memory

Clenching your fists creates a stronger memory

Need to remember some important facts for that big presentation at work? Clench your right hand while preparing to remember. When giving that talk, ball up your left hand and you’ll call to mind those details, no problem. 

That’s the finding from a new study authored by Ruth Propper, an associate professor and director of the cerebral lateralization laboratory at Montclair State University. Propper has long been intrigued by how body movements impact how the brain works. While most people realize that the brain influences the body (the brain tells your arm there is an itch, and you feel it), less is understood about how the body sways the brain.

Past research suggests that clenching our hands can evoke emotions. When people ball up their right hands, for example, the left sides of their brains become more active, causing what’s known as “approach emotions,” feelings such as happiness or excitement. By squeezing the left hand, people engage the right side of the brain, which controls “withdrawal emotions” such as introversion, fear, or anxiety. (It probably seems like these might be less useful, but they come in handy in dangerous situations.)

Propper theorized that if clenching hands impacted feelings, these gestures might influence the brain in other ways.

To learn how hand clenching influenced memory and recall, she asked 51 right- handed subjects to memorize 72 words and randomly assigned each person to one of five hand-clenching groups or a control group that did nothing. Only righties were included because lefties exhibit better episodic memory overall so they’d have an unfair advantage. She found the perfect combination for better memory and recall occurs when a subject clenches his right hand while memorizing and balls up his left hand while trying to recall the memory.

“It is interesting to compare to not clenching at all. It’s almost 15 percent better [to clench right then left] than sitting there,” she says.

While a 15 percent improvement is on the edge of being statistically significant, Propper notes 15 percent can be the difference between an A and a C on test.

Propper admits that more research needs to be conducted on how bodily movements enhance brain function, but she recommends that people try squeezing their hands to aid with memory.

“I would say that it would be worth trying,” Propper says. Take parking your car in the parking lot.  “(A)s you park you can clench your right hand and when you are trying to find it, clench your left hand.”

By: Unknown On 22.52

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Have Sex For 106 Mins Per Day

Weird News: Wanna Be Happy? Have Sex For 106 Minutes A Day

You should be having three times as much sex as work, according to science.

We used to just have intercourse for making babies. Then, it must have been at least three or four years ago, we discovered it felt really good AND made you sort of like the person you were trying it with. Before that life was work, work, work. It turns out that even though we're more enlightened about the benefits of sex, we're still not likely doing it enough.

Per Quartz (based on a report from ScienceDirect), the optimal ratio for having a great day is 106 minutes of sex per 36 minutes of work. While it seems like this could very easily be filed away under "Duh, Science," the authors took into account the old law of diminishing returns even in something pleasurable. The authors, Christian Kroll of Jacobs University in Germany and Sebastian Pokutta of Georgia Tech, use a technique called the Day Reconstruction Method to focus on the pleasure derived from each of our daily activities. They then extrapolated the results over a 16-hour day. My experience with both Georgia Tech and Germany makes me wonder if sexual repression doesn't sometimes lead to strikingly obvious discoveries.

 Frankly, the results make me realize what a genius Tim Ferriss is. If you couple his Four-Hour Work Week (self-explanatory) with the 15-minute orgasm concepts from his Four-Hour Body, we are rapidly approaching these numbers provided we get busy 4 and 1/3 times a day and toilth on the Sabbath. Those of us who are able to answer emails while we have sex are probably way ahead of the game.

If we are all going to optimally happy, we'll have to employ a number of robots in the industry of genital salve and replacement skin and just pray that they don't kill us with their strong, metal claws.

Good luck striking the new work-life balance to anyone who is not Sting.

By: Unknown On 03.20

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Die While Sleeping - Warning !

Sleep Apnea Symptoms: Sneaky Signs You Might Have The Sleep Disorder 

 
Maybe someone has told you your snore is deafening, or you've woken up on more than your fair share of mornings feeling less than refreshed. In those instances, it's probably pretty obvious something's up with your sleep.

But in the case of sleep apnea, a disorder wherein people stop breathing while asleep, sometimes hundreds of times a night, pinpointing the problem can be significantly trickier. These brief periods of breathing cessation don't trigger full alertness, but disrupt sleep enough to leave sufferers groggy in the mornings -- and at risk for a number of more serious health problems, often without even realizing there's a problem.

People with undiagnosed sleep apnea -- which may affect more than 20 million adults, according to the American Sleep Apnea Association -- may go on to develop diabetes or depression, and face an increased risk of heart attacks and strokes, among other concerns.

Men over the age of 40 are at an increased risk for sleep apnea. Being overweight also increases your likelihood of developing the condition, as can a family history of the disease, having a large tongue or neck and having allergies, sinus problems or any nasal obstruction, according to WebMD.

Luckily, there are a number of ways to treat sleep apnea, including simple lifestyle measures like losing weight and avoiding alcohol. But all too often a sleep apnea diagnosis is hard to come by. There's no "test" for sleep apnea, and it's not often evident at a doctor's appointment, according to the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute. A family member or bed partner is often first to notice the signs, usually snoring or brief periods of no breathing.

But don't leave your health entirely in the hands of the people sleeping around you. Today, in honor of Sleep Apnea Awareness Day, take a moment to familiarize yourself with these more surprising signs that you could have sleep apnea.

By: Unknown On 03.01

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The Sex Secrets How To Become Vivid Stars

Farrah Abraham Brings Her Dad & Daughter to Sex Tape Negotiation

Question: Where is the last place on Earth you should bring your dad and your kid?
Answer: Your sex tape negotiation. Ewwwwwwwwwww!!!!!

But that's exactly what "Teen Mom" star Farrah Abraham did on Sunday when she hit up the offices of Vivid Entertainment to negotiate a possible deal for her sex tape.

Farrah told our photog she is negotiating with two other companies and that she is considering Vivid's offer. She said she only brought her father along "for support" ... but when you check out the video, you can tell how uncomfortable he is about the whole thing.

Our photog also spoke to Vivid honcho Steve Hirsch after the meeting ... and even he thought bringing a young child to a porn office was a bad idea.

At least someone is the voice of reason.

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The Best Tips For Sex

Top 10: Tips For Better Sex

 
A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. It won’t always be easy -- our busy lives are taxing and often leave us tired and devoid of the imagination and motivation required to keep up the pace. Having good sex doesn’t necessarily mean spending hours and hours of frolicking, it can be as simple as doing something a little different just for a change.

Women are cyclic creatures, and her sex drive will vary depending on her hormones and what’s going on in her life. Sometimes it takes a bit longer to get her hot and the same-old song and dance may not be enough. This applies to you too.

Therefore, it's important to add a few more stimulating aspects to your sex life to keep things interesting.

Here are 10 tips for better sex, which should keep the two of you hot for some time to come.

Number 10
Blindfold her
Sexual pleasure has many dimensions, but the most important sexual organ we have is our brain. When one sense is hindered, our other senses -- via the brain -- clamor to compensate. For example, a deaf person has increased sensory awareness -- sight, smell, touch, and vibrations. For No. 10 entry on our 10 tips for better sex guide, we're telling you that you can tap into this innate ability of ours and use it to your advantage: Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness. She doesn’t know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex -- the tease. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects, such as a feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be careful not to overstimulate the nerve endings, however, because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation becomes null and void.

Number 9
Give her instructions
After a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is very rarely true. There is always something you haven’t tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently.

To combat this for better sex, have a lesson session in which you don’t think you know it all, and are at each other's mercy as teacher. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, then choose one suggestion from each partner, and get down and dirty. We often get caught thinking we know what our partners like, and after a while it becomes "the way it’s done." Lose this myth and put yourself in the student's chair for a while for better sex you won't regret.

Number 8
Massage
Sensual touch is one of the most highly relaxing and sexy things you can do for your partner, which is why it makes it onto our 10 tips for better sex list. Our bodies are almost without exception tense in some area, if not many areas. This hinders our energy flow -- including sexual energy flow. Imagine a car that has a clogged fuel filter: the fuel (our energy) can’t get to where it needs to go quickly and smoothly, and the car performs inefficiently and ineffectively.

A relaxing sensual massage can unlock her body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in the end. The ability to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. The same goes for her: The difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual massage is in the manner of touch -- you don’t want to relax her too deeply because she will probably fall straight to sleep.

The key to better sex in this case is to keep her senses alert, but her body relaxed. This means a firm touch, coupled with some sensory feather-light caresses. Once you've relaxed her major muscles -- shoulders and back -- work your way down to her buttocks. Strokes can then start to wander near to, but not on, her inner thighs, butt crease and vagina. Don’t forget her hands and feet -- there are thousands of nerve endings in our hands and feet that are very sensitive to touch. If you have no idea what a good massage feels like or how to perform one, spend some time in "lesson time" with your partner and learn what you both like or just run your hands all over her body -- all over. Don’t skip to the hot spots or you’ll ruin the effect.

Number 7
Have her dress up
Pretending to be something you're not comes easily to some people. However, it has its benefits when done for fun. Stepping out of the role of being "yourself" can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during sexual play is a very enjoyable way to give your partner some different sensations, and try things that you haven’t done before. Role playing is a great way to have better sex and to have fun with your partner in a light-hearted but sexy way. It is often the woman who does the dressing up simply because A) They enjoy it; and B) They have the resources of clothes, underwear and makeup -- but don't forget that you can play too..

Number 6
Tell her your fantasies
Talking about your fantasies with your partner is a very conducive form of sex play. It increases communication with your partner, which is of great importance, as well, it also helps you get to know each other better for better sex. Yes, you may be surprised by what comes out of her mouth, but this works both ways. Keep it light at first and don’t throw her in the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal fetishes you aren't sure about. Sit back with a glass of wine and keep your clothes on -- for now. Fantasy play can also be incorporated into a game for better sex. Use your imagination, and keep it sexy. Take it in turns and see where it leads you.

Number 5
Play a game
Get a pack of cards and play strip poker for better sex. It may seem like something you would have done when you were in high school (given the opportunity), but adult strip poker is a good way to get naked. Once you are both naked (or nearly naked), you can start on the really fun part: A loss means the other person gets to choose what action is performed on them by the loser. Time limits like one minute on said action means that it is a prolonged game of seduction, which by the end will have you both clamoring to be both the winner and the loser. There are many other games you can play "strip" to, as long as there is regular winner and loser to reward and punish respectively. The great part about these games is that you can both ask the other person to do something in a certain way that you may not necessarily have ever done before. It can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in the end.

Number 4
Dirty talk
Talking dirty has turned people on for millennia and will continue to do so because it has something other sex play doesn’t: words. Because our brains are our largest sexual apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically -- especially when someone says our name. The spoken word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic.

This works very much in your favor when it comes to talking dirty to your lover because women are especially susceptible to what goes in their ears (and I don’t mean cotton buds or ear candles). Talking dirty is, however, an art form and when done badly can result in fits of giggles (which, lets face it, ain't so bad but isn't quite the goal here). Don’t let this deter you.

For better sex, start off easy with neutral dirty-talk topics, such as how you feel inside her, how much you are enjoying the act and what you would like to do to her next. Don’t get too carried away, but let it flow out of you. Dirty talk can be a bit daunting at first, if you are not used to verbalizing these things, so practice. You will see how she responds to you. Dirty talk also comes under the "encouragement" category -- when she sees that you like something very much, she will be more interested in doing it more. The rawness of the sexual passion aroused with dirty talk is why it is so effective. Be careful with swearing too much -- though a good dose of foul language is part and parcel with dirty talk (its not called dirty talk for nothing), too much swearing/name calling can be a turn off. Try to stick to positive words, and leave the commonly used insult words out. Watch what you call her body parts too -- just make sure she can handle it before launching into your tirade of filth. Chances are, the passion from you will ignite hers two-fold. 

Number 3
Try a new position
You already know how to bring her to orgasm in two ways (probably). You repeat these regularly because they work -- there's no harm in that. However, if you never, ever try any new positions again, how will you ever know? New positions need a reasonably high level of arousal in your lover, so choose your time to strike a new pose when she is quite obviously feeling very randy. 

There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so you can use your imagination and come up with as many weird and wonderful inventions as you desire. Simply changing locations can dramatically change the position, so consider this too (for example on top of the washing machine, on a bench, beanbag or table). 

Number 2
Use a cock ring
Cock rings slow the drain of blood out of your erection, and keep you harder for longer. A very hard penis stimulates a woman’s insides slightly differently -- and much better -- than one that is getting soft around the edges. Cock rings are inexpensive and usually nice to look at, and make an interesting male sex toy to add to your collection. Cock rings ensure that you can maintain the pace without faltering for better sex. This is very pleasing to your lady friend.

Number 1
Try a new place
Sex in a new locale is definitely up there in exciting things to do for better sex. You can take a drive somewhere secluded where you can get a bit risqué. Try a public place (not too public) or simply move to a different room or area in your home -- or even someone else’s home. Whatever tickles your fancy. There are a million and one different places to have sex other than your home, in your bed -- use them. 
increase your pleasure
The list of helpful hints you have been presented with equates to a very good head start to a better sex life. The time and energy required to plan your adventures will pay off immediately, but also over the longer term. You will be rewarded according to the effort you put in with a great new skill set, and of course better sex. Make time, conserve some energy for it and relax. Life is short!

By: Unknown On 00.20

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The Secret Methods for Multiple Orgasms

Multiple Methods For Multiple Orgasms

Forget everything you learned in Psychology 101

Most guys know more about what’s under the hood of a car than they do about what's under the hood of a clitoris. We’re woefully “ill-cliterate,” which is a shame when you consider that the clitoris -- with more than 18 parts, twice as many nerve endings as the penis, and the enviable ability to produce multiple orgasms -- is the indisputable powerhouse of the female orgasm.

Fortunately, when pleasuring a woman, there are multiple methods for multiple orgasms, so in the spirit of resourcefulness, here are some sexual survival tips for making it happen.

Avoid Freud
Forget everything you learned in Psychology 101. Sigmund Freud made a name for himself demonizing the clitoris and formulating a truly kooky view of women’s sexuality. Freud got the idea into his head that the clitoris was an immature source of sexual pleasure, a mere launching pad for the more mature vaginal orgasm, which, of course, could only be produced via genital intercourse. At the end of his life, Freud acknowledged his incomplete understanding of female sexuality and said, “If you want to know more about femininity, you must interrogate your own experience, or turn to the poets, or else wait until science can give you more profound and more coherent information.” Or, for today’s modern guy, just turn to the woman in bed next to you and deploy some basic cliteracy.

Ladies first
When it comes to satisfying a woman, a little old-fashioned chivalry goes a long way. Lest you think the importance of such courtesy is over-exaggerated, direct your attention to Lorena Bobbitt who, when questioned by police as to why she cut off her husband’s penis, responded, “He always has an orgasm and doesn’t wait for me. It’s unfair.” Need one say more?

The simple fact is that the male orgasm typically comes easy. Masters and Johnson dubbed it “ejaculatory inevitability” and the late Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey declared that 75% of men ejaculate within two minutes.

Is it any surprise, then, that researchers from the University of Chicago declared in the 1994 Sex in America Survey that men reach orgasm during intercourse far more consistently than women do, and that three-quarters of men, but less than a third of women, always have orgasms? This means that more than two out of three women on average are consistently denied their climax -- good reason to start hiding the cutlery.

Studies such as those by Kinsey and Masters & Johnson have concluded that, among women whose partners spent 21 minutes or longer on foreplay, only 7.7% failed to reach orgasm consistently. That’s a shift of tectonic proportions, from two out of three women not being able to reach climax to 9 out of 10 achieving satisfaction, all due to a matter of minutes.

So take the path of the true gentleman: Postpone your pleasure. As Sir Thomas Wyatt wrote, “Patience shall be my song.”

Think outside the box
Rare is the man who boasts in the locker room, “I made love to her as subtly and lightly as a feather” or, “I grazed her vulva as with the delicate wings of a butterfly.” Yet such language would be appropriate, since the inner two-thirds of the vagina are substantially less sensitive than the outer third. So think outside the box (pun definitely intended), but know that the clitoris is extremely sensitive to physical sensation and needs to be properly prepped for serious stimulation. Avoid her genitals and go easy on the breasts for a good 10 to 15 minutes.

By: Unknown On 02.09

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The World's Best Sex Position

Useful Sex Positions

Between the sheets, some men have problems setting records for long-lasting lovemaking. While others have a hard time getting their partners to climax. Well, guess what -- I've put together a list of some fantastic sex positions. These sex positions are sure to fulfill your particular sexual mission, which should include giving your lucky lady some unadulterated pleasure. Please note that while these sex positions might not be the most exciting, actually they're pretty basic, they prove that you don't have to be a yoga expert to get off.

Her on top
If you're lucky enough to have a girlfriend who says to you, "Sometimes, I just want to be the chick in charge," you better let her take control of the situation and enjoy the ride. The female-superior sex position is perfect to assume when your partner is feeling energetic and playful. When the woman takes control, she decides whether she wants an orgasm via her clitoris or her G-spot, as both types of orgasms are attainable through this position. For a guaranteed clitoral orgasm, ask her to lean her torso forward, arch her back, and keep her crotch near the base of your penis.

Instead of the usual up and down movement, try lateral jerks to really hit the spot and increase sensitivity. Pulling yourself upright and hugging her tight for that special heart-to-heart moment is an added bonus with this sex position.

To maximize her chances of G-spot stimulation, get her to lean back on her hands. Assuming this sex position will persuade her to ride your sexual organ up and down as well as capitalize on all the awkward angles, which will hit her love button.

Her sitting
Your week was long, you just had a romantic dinner with red wine, and if you played your cards right, she wants to get it on in a hurry. Believe it or not, but women are often in the mood for a quick fix instead of a long, drawn-out, mushy love fest. To start this sex position right, lift her up onto the countertop and let her assume the spread-eagle position. Now, you should be standing in front of her to enter; the angle and thrust force provided by this sex position creates mega-heat in a minimal amount of time.

Intercourse in this sex position should get her excited in a hurry through G-spot stimulation. Although it maximizes your chances of getting her aroused, remember that you will be vulnerable to premature ejaculation. Due to the angle, the head of your penis will rub her inner body in such way that it will be hard to control your orgasm.

et another benefit from this unconventional sex position will be the novelty factor. Assuming this no-holds-barred approach will add to the spontaneity factor of having sex outside the bedroom. It could make the whole experience more pleasurable.

Missionary position
The missionary position is the most conventional position and, let's not deny it, we all like this oldie-but-goodie. This sex position allows for, among other things, a special feeling of closeness between you and your partner. The comfort of the bedroom is also enjoyable, since that's where most of us like to kick back and relax after a good love-making session.

Other physical rewards are non-stop kissing, touching and eye-gazing -- it's like a whole body massage, inside and out. Because the missionary position is a very intimate experience, you might want to try something different when you're having sex with someone you don't particularly love.

Finally, because the missionary position is very ordinary, that does not mean that it can't be extraordinary. Put some swivel in your hips when plunging in and out. Remember that your entry angle will really make the difference between a memorable performance and an average one.

sex you up
Although the information listed above can vary from one couple to another, in general, every position serves a purpose. In the second part of this article , I discuss three more positions and explain why and when they should be performed.

As a side note, if you would like to intensify your sexual experiences, try one of these  products: Herbal Vibes RX and Penis Pro. I discovered these herbal products purely by chance, and decided to share their potential value with you.

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The Secrets How To Mastering Oral Sex

Ultimate Oral Sex

 
It's no surprise that most relationships don't last forever, but that doesn't mean that the sex has to stop. If you always please your woman the right way, she'll be back for a chance to rub skin with you all over again -- regardless of who did the breaking up.

Everyone needs physical love. After a breakup, your ex-lover will eventually need to have her sexual needs satisfied. Eventually, she'll meet other men with whom she'll have sex. But once she realizes that the sex is no where close to what it was with you, she'll be busting down your bedroom door.

the player's secret
The secret to keeping your ex-girlfriend interested in "scheduled" weekend getaways with you is to continuously please her with unforgettable sex. One way to be an incomparable lover is to be original and exciting through oral sex. The other way is to have an ultimate signature move.

Unfortunately, most men think that the only way to gratify a woman is through sexual intercourse alone. The Player knows that pleasing a woman fully involves a package deal, including passionate foreplay and compassionate oral sex. Up the ante of your sexual reputation and indulge in the benefits.

the main course
All men like to believe that they're the kings of the bedroom-ring by trying all kinds of sexual positions. But when it comes time for oral sex, some men avoid performing it while others view it as a chore. This is where The Player gets an upper hand over the competition.

Because men don't value the power of good oral sex, they pay little attention to detail and fall short of creativity with their cunnilingus performance. 99% of men will either perform oral sex in one of two positions: with her lying on her back or in position number 69.

Oral sex is just as important as intercourse. Some women even find it more intimate than intercourse itself and reach orgasm more quickly that way. If you want to be a great lover, you have to view oral sex as a main dish served in a variety of ways.

oral foreplay
We all know the importance of foreplay before intercourse. But did you know that you can join her list of unforgettable lovers by adding oral foreplay to your menu of tasty desserts?

Don't jump onto her clitoris right away without first warming her up. Before you wind your tongue up, give her a teaser of what she can expect by taking your time to explore her erogenous zones.

During oral foreplay, use your tongue to lick her belly, inner thighs, behind her knees, her feet, her buttocks, and the area surrounding her genitals. You can use your lips to kiss her outer labia, but you can't use your tongue on her portal of pleasure. She knows that she'll eventually get the tongue, but never give it to her when she's expecting it.

Making her wait will increase her desire for you, but making her beg will ruin the mood. Stop the oral foreplay and give her what she desires at the right time. Observe the movement of her body. A dead giveaway is when she tries to position herself so that your mouth can find her. Creatively dive into her when she begins to press her inner thighs into you.

Savor it
Women don't like rough brutes, but they want to see that their men are enjoying themselves while performing oral sex. Show her that you love tasting her by taking your time and being gentle. Use your lips, tongue and mouth lovingly on the areas surrounding her genitals.

When she can't stand it any longer, use your tongue as if it were a feather before you cover her with your mouth. Touch her vagina lightly, licking the labia and finding the vaginal opening. You can probe your tongue in and out, but remember, she's waiting for you to use your mouth, not your tongue.

Be a "gentle" man
Women's genitals are very sensitive. Don't bite, don't blow into her and don't suck too hard. Everything you do has to be gentle; as if you're trying to lick a rose's petal without breaking it or pricking yourself.

When you feel the time is right, move on to her clitoris -- the place that brings most women to orgasm. Use your tongue softly to make slow, wide and sensual strokes from the vaginal opening to the clitoris.

Keep a steady rhythm
Some men make the mistake of increasing the stroking speed once they sense the woman is close to orgasm. But this is not the right way. Instead, keep the same rhythm or even decrease the stroking speed of your tongue. At this point, she will have a powerful orgasm, and probably more than just one.

Time for gymnastics
Just like intercourse, oral sex feels different depending on how it's delivered. By trying different positions, oral play can create different moods, resulting in different and exciting visual scenarios, and leading to different kinds of stimulation. This will, in turn, set you apart from other men and get her addicted to you.

From personal experience, there are two different positions which really fuel a woman's orgasm: the Reverse Hug and Doggy Greet .

The Reverse Hug: This one is tricky but well worth it. You'll need to be in shape to do this, and it's another reason why you should exercise and build your muscles.Reverse hug - Credit: Player's Guide

Hold her upside down in front of you. Keep her head and shoulders resting on the bed, and her back resting against your stomach and chest. Hold her up so that she won't feel too much pressure on the back of her neck. Have her wrap her legs around your head and lock her feet behind your neck. Wrap your arms around her belly and then simply lower your face between her legs.

Women enjoy this position because of the stimulation caused by the combination of oral sex and the "head rush" they get when positioned upside down.

The Doggy Greet: This move involves a combination of doggy style intercourse and oral sex. It requires a lot of control and willpower because you need to stop doing what feels best (penetrating her) so that you can concentrate on her pleasure.Doggy Greet - Credit: Player's Guide

How do you do it? While having intercourse in the doggy position, pull out of her when you feel she is close to reaching orgasm. Then lower your head towards her flower and use your mouth and tongue with finesse as described above, until she reaches orgasm. Then just as she thinks the fun is over, enter her again with your manhood and I guarantee you she'll definitely have multiple orgasms, and be very grateful for your unselfishness and creativity.

Why do women appreciate this move? Many women's favorite position is doggy style. It feels good but it becomes more or less predictable. The Doggy Greet is totally unexpected. Most women assume that a man cannot control himself and once penetration begins, a man won't stop until he is satisfied. By pulling out and giving her oral sex, you'll give her two different kinds of stimulation and show your appreciation for her sexual needs.

from her thighs to her mind
Women like it when their men make sex exciting, adventurous and spontaneous, and this includes oral sex. If you do it right, she will never let you go! You can have a small penis and still be sexually brilliant! It doesn't matter how gorgeous your face is, how big you are or how built you are.

For women, any man who knows how to give great oral sex is worth his weight in gold. Give her the best possible oral sex and you will stay in her mind forever.

By: Unknown On 19.20

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Female Sexual Fantasies Secret

Exploring Female Sexual Fantasies

Freud once stated that only unsatisfied people have sexual fantasies.

Well, the bearded shrink was wrong; studies of human sexual behavior have proven exactly the opposite. Sexual fantasies have been shown to be associated with high libido as defined by high sex drive and orgasm frequency.

This was especially true for women: those who had more sexual fantasies also had higher sexual desire and sexual satisfaction. Pleasure fuels a desire for more pleasure. And while there exists a common false belief that men daydream about sex every seven seconds or so during their waking hours, women also frequently fantasize, especially after they have become aroused. Indeed, women who have sexual fantasies during arousal are much more likely to experience orgasms than women who do not.

So don't feel guilty if you find yourself fantasizing about Angelina Jolie while making love to your girlfriend or wife. While you are humping away at your imaginary Angelina, she is probably dreaming about being ravished by Brad Pitt on some deserted island in a modern-day remake of From Here to Eternity.

In fact, research has shown that women are just as likely as men to have sexual fantasies during intercourse; and just like men, women often fantasize about having sex with other partners.

what does that say about her?
Just because she is fantasizing about someone else does not mean she is unhappy with her man. For reasons similar to those that cause men to imagine themselves with other partners, the "spice" of the fantasy simply adds to her arousal and provides that extra "oomph" to bring her over the top.

While she might be plenty happy with her man's performance, dreaming that it is Brad Pitt who is giving her that pleasure just enhances its orgasmic potency.

what do women fantasize about?

One person at a time
Nevertheless, female fantasies are different from male ones in several major ways. Men tend to fantasize about a greater number of sexual partners, and many men like to "swap" their imagined partners, while women tend to "stay" with one specific person during their fantasy.

Vivid fantasies, free of precise details
Men tend to focus on activities and body organs during their fantasies, which led researchers to describe male fantasies as consisting of "sex acts and parts." Even though women's fantasies are just as vivid, they are frequently unable to provide the same descriptive details about the objects of their fantasy.

Women's fantasies are also less explicit -- women are far less likely than men to visualize their imagined lover's genitals than men are. Instead, women appear to be more involved with their own emotional responses than with the characteristics of their imaginary partners. Their fantasies frequently include descriptions of their imagined selves, such as: "I look so sexy wearing my favorite blue lingerie that he can't take his eyes off me." Women are also more likely to describe feelings that their fantasies evoke: "I felt happy and free."

Exotic & romantic settings
Another characteristic of female fantasies is reference to exotic, romantic settings, such as islands, forests, flowers, waterfalls, moonlight and heaven. Many women also mention freedom from responsibilities or distractions (such as children or the telephone) as an important aspect of their fantasies.

Passive & submissive thoughts
Women are also more likely to fantasize that they are passive recipients of sexual activity, unlike men, whose fantasies are more about performing sexual activity on an imagined sexual object.

Similarly, women are more likely to have submission fantasies than men; however, the common so-called "rape fantasy" is not at all about real rape. It is about the woman's irresistible sex appeal that causes some handsome, sensitive, caring "brute" to be so overcome with passion that he has to take her.

He exerts just enough force to overcome her token resistance, and then his sensitive, caring side takes over -- enabling him to do just the right things to satisfy her. If her fantasies are drawn out into daydreams, they will likely lead to her brutish lover proposing marriage, or at least promising an undying commitment to satisfying her sexually.

Emotional desires
Female fantasies are more emotional, intimate and contextual, and often reflect a woman's concern for committed partners and romantic settings. So while guys may fantasize about threesomes or harems full of anonymous babes, women's fantasies emphasize touching, feelings, partner response, their own physical and emotional responses, and a romantic ambience.

The object of their daydreams might be a celebrity, but it is more likely to be someone they have had -- or wished to have had -- a past relationship with. Indeed, the most common feature of female fantasies is the inclusion of a husband or a current love partner (twice as many women as men fantasize about their current partner). So chances are, while you are imagining that she is Angelina Jolie, she is actually thinking of you, or you and Brad Pitt dueling over her!

Bisexual dreams
However, your girlfriend might be fantasizing about Angelina Jolie as well, because many women are naturally bi-curious and women are much more likely to have same-sex fantasies than men. If you find out that your girlfriend or wife is having such fantasies, don't worry about her being a lezzy -- take advantage of the moment and suggest a threesome. But don't be too eager; pretend that you are actually indulging her fantasy!

Fewer fetishes
Girl fantasies are less likely to involve fetishes. Forget the foot worshipping scene; if a woman fantasizes about shoes, she is dreaming about the mall and the latest style of Manolo Blahnik pumps. She might fantasize about a bout of light bondage -- as part of a bodice-ripping, romantic encounter with some ruggedly handsome pirate type.
share your fantasies
Encourage her to share her fantasies with you and then surprise her by acting parts of them out (some hotels have theme rooms customized for various fantasies).

Communicating about your fantasies will enrich your sex life and may even bring some of them to fruition -- especially if it turns out that both of you have been thinking about sleeping with her yoga instructor!

And one more thing... if, after a hot bout of sex, she whispers in your ear, "Oh, Brad, that was wonderful!," don't freak out or get insanely jealous. Just give her a squeeze, kiss her eyes, and whisper back, "My Angelina, I'm glad it was good for you too!"

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The Most Pleasurable Sex Positions for Man

Male Pleasure Positions

As always, we’d like thank our readers for their relentless pursuit of perfection in the bedroom. If not for your tireless efforts, many women would never have known how incredible an orgasm can be. Therefore, in appreciation of your never-ending attempts to satisfy the fairer sex, we’re taking a moment to encourage a bit of well-earned selfishness in the boudoir with a few male pleasure positions. While the following male pleasure sex positions can certainly drive a woman wild, their primary function is to provide maximal sexual pleasure for you.

Read on as we tell you how to get the most out of the best male pleasure positions for vaginal and anal sex.

Cowgirl
It’s no surprise that this classic male pleasure position has stood the test of time; maximum penetration for both partners allows for some of the best sex imaginable. It makes our list for one simple reason: She does all the work. You’re certainly welcome to help her along, but most of the physical work is carried out by her. This means you can lie back and enjoy the view as she bobs and jiggles her way (and yours) to orgasm. The cowgirl also provides maximum penetration, which equals maximum stimulation for you.

Tip: If she’s especially self-conscious about her body, try suggesting the reverse cowgirl instead: It’s the same idea, but facing the opposite direction. This position will feel just as good while alleviating any concerns she might have about feeling overexposed.

Around the bend
Deep thrusting is a primal sexual urge experienced by most men. Unfortunately, many traditional positions prevent thrusting to the hilt, which can leave a little something to be desired when it comes to sex. This male pleasure position, however, in which you bend her over the nearest piece of furniture, will satisfy that urge from the moment of penetration. With her legs spaced and her rump in the air, you’ll be able to thrust deeply without having to worry about injuring her during the act.

Tip: If she complains about the lack of intimacy, you can resolve this by simply leaning forward until your chest is touching her back; this will make her feel more like you’re having a shared experience, and less like she’s only there for your own pleasure.

Inverted rear
This is another male pleasure position that makes thrusting easy. Lie down on your back and have her lie on top of you while facing the ceiling. Grab her thighs and spread her legs apart until she’s in a reverse straddle. Due to her positioning, her mobility will be limited, but yours will be relatively unencumbered. Once she’s in position, you’ll be able to thrust as deeply as you like, for as long as you like -- preferably until she’s screaming your name.

Tip: Wild sex in this position can make it difficult for a woman to stay balanced; be sure to keep a firm hold of her thighs to help her stay on top.

Full mast
You’ll need a relatively limber woman for this male pleasure position. While she’s lying on her back, raise her legs until they’re positioned at a 90-degree angle in relation to her body. Kneel in front of her and place her legs against your chest while keeping them firmly held together. Not only will this position provide yet another means of deep thrusting, but the action is also likely going to be far tighter than usual, thanks to her thighs being drawn together.

Tip: Occasionally, when the thrusting really starts to get good, men have a tendency to raise a woman’s back further away from the mattress than comfort permits. Forceful thrusting can exert a significant amount of pressure, so make sure her back is getting enough support as you drive her to ecstasy.

The lotus
As with the cowgirl position, this male pleasure position requires her to do most, if not all, of the work. You’ll need to sit cross-legged on the bed (or floor, though that won’t be very comfortable after a few minutes, trust us) and pull her onto your lap. The idea is to have her straddle you via wrapping her legs around your waist, and then raise herself up and down until you’ve both collapsed in a heap of spent pleasure. If she’s having trouble moving up and down, rocking back and forth is just as mind-blowing and less stressful on the lower back.

Tip: Lean against a wall or headboard during this one. Not only will it support your back, but it will also give her something to hold onto, which will make it far easier for her to ride you.

Doggy style
Doggy style -- the staple of the porn industry. Perhaps one of the most animalistic scenarios when it comes to sex, this male pleasure position is all about getting one’s rocks off. A relatively easy position to deliver the goods from, doggy style gives you deep penetration at the pace of raw lust. Not only is this position straight to the point, but it’s also straight to orgasm with the least possible effort.

Tip: Many women complain about the lack of intimacy when it comes to doggy style. This is because men often go through the motions without any other type of contact. To make her feel more connected, try a bit of dirty talk, gentle hair tugging or even mild spanking.
male pleasure matters

Even though we’ve approached these positions from the angle of male satisfaction, most of you will still do your best to please your woman first, regardless. This is exactly why we’ve selected these male pleasure positions for you -- they’re guaranteed to blow your mind even if you’re concentrated on pleasing your woman first. Add these male pleasure positions to your sexual repertoire, and don’t be afraid to be a little selfish every once in a while; your woman knows you’ve earned it.

By: Unknown On 18.30

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The Top Secrets How To Kiss A Girl With No Chance of Rejection

How to Kiss a Girl Smoothly with No Chance of Rejection

Going for a kiss is a scary moment for most guys. Just like the initial approach, and just like when you ask for a number, it is a point where you could be rejected. Most guys will talk for a few minutes, or hours and then lunge in for a kiss, or they will wait for a movie moment style kiss outside her house.

Steps

1. Touch her in increasingly more sensual ways leading up to the kiss.

Touch her arm for emphasis when you are talking.
Touch her hand. Looking at jewelry is a good excuse.
Touch her hair. Asking if it is her natural color, if she ever wears it up, has ever cut it short/used to have it long, or even when she washed it is a good excuse. If she is comfortable with you touching her hair and doesn't recoil at all, then she is kissable, you can go for it here.

2. Take her hand and hold it as you talk. If you have done the above, it will be acceptable at this point. Don't look at her hand or draw attention to it, just do it.

3. Squeeze her hand and see if she squeezes back, this is another kiss-tell. No girl ever squeezes back if she isn't ready to kiss.

4. Stop talking, pause, tilt head and look at her. See if she is comfortable. If she is you can kiss.

If she turns her head away when you try to kiss: Kiss her cheek and then her neck! She will turn around and kiss you. This is not a rejection but most guys assume it to be and back away. Do this and you can turn her on even more.

5. Establish a sexual vibe as you escalate the physical contact. You do this by:
More intense eye contact
Slower, smoother, deeper voice

6. Look at her in a sexual way, start to look at her lips as well as her eyes and see if she reciprocates. If she does she is imagining kissing you.

7. Sometimes, even with no work on your part, she will want you. When a girl wants to kiss you:
She squeezes your hand.
She looks at your lips or looks down.
She touches your chest instead of arm.
She is comfortable with hard eye contact even when no one is speaking.
She touches her own lips for a second then pulls away quickly

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How To Have Sex Without Getting Pregnant

Never Ever Asks Things Like that AGAIN in your LIFE!

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The TOP SECRETS How To Prevent AIDS

Vibrosage (1933)
Half as large as the vibrators of the 'teens and '20s, this well-designed little item was easy to find in the 1930s and '40s, and is commonly found made of brightly-colored aluminum.

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Mistakes That Make Pregnant

10 Dumb Mistakes That Can Get Her Pregnant

Using contraception should be like driving a car —so automatic, you do it without thought. But (uh oh) what if you’re messing up…and you don’t even know it?

You’re about six beers deep and finally—after several overpriced dinners and cocktails—you’ve convinced a super hot chick that you’re not the playboy/creeper/serial killer she initially pegged you as. Score! So as you head back to your place and things get heated, there’s no shot you’re killing the mood with a condom...right?

Bad idea. Terrible idea. In fact, that logic is so flawed, we’re going to go ahead and counter it with the ultimate mood killer: In the first year of a baby’s life—between doctor visits, clothing, food, and everything else, a parent can expect to spend more than $10,000. (Yeah. Let that sink in.)

So unless you’re ready to trade beer for baby formula? Read this—MF’s expansive guide to making sure you don’t knock her up. Because even if you play it safe most of the time, you’re probably screwing up in ways you didn’t even know were possible.

1. The Mistake: You  think having sex standing up prevents pregnancy.

The Potential Damage: We couldn’t believe that nearly 1 in 5 of men buy into this, but according to a 2010 study, it's true. Yikes. “The law of gravity is not a contraceptive,” says Debby Herbenick, PhD, the co-director of The Center for Sexual Health Promotion. That’s a seemingly obvious assessment, right? Use it.

2. The Mistake: You blindly grab some lube.

The Potential Damage: Always, always, always check what your lube is made out of—otherwise, that condom might do jack. “Oil-based or petroleum-based lubricants like mineral oil or massage lotion can destroy condoms, making them more likely to break,” says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux.

3. The Mistake: Your hands are sweaty, so one of you tears the condom package with your teeth.

The Potential Damage: Using items like knives or scissors—even your teeth—to open a wrapper will make it very easy to mistakenly poke a hole in the condom. (In one study, dudes who did so were about three times more likely to encounter breakage.) Think about it—do you really want sharp objects coming anywhere near the super-thin barrier that stands between you and fatherhood?

4. The Mistake: You put the condom on—but don’t leave any space in the tip.

The Potential Damage: If you covered up a faucet with your hand and turned it on full blast, where would the water go? See what we’re sayin’? It’s not rocket science. So leave approximately half an inch at the top of the condom to properly “catch” your sperm, says Herbenick; without this wiggle room, you’re risking breakage.

5. The Mistake: You don’t use a condom because she’s on the Pill.

The Potential Damage: If you’re in a relationship, you should trust that she’s true to her word, but for a one night stand? It’s not worth the risk. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, birth control pills are between 91-99 percent effective in preventing pregnancy—but the Pill plus a condom gives you close-to-perfect protection. Your call.

6. The Mistake: You were wasted and couldn’t find a condom...so you didn’t use one.

The Potential Damage: Sure, it’s an understandably awkward situation if you’re about to “get it in” and can’t figure out where the hell you put the condom. But is it more awkward than becoming a daddy if you’re not ready for a kid? Get off your ass and search a little harder, or walk to the store and pick up an extra pack. According to the World Health Organization, with perfect use, condoms prevent pregnancy 98 percent of the time. That’s pretty damn good.

7. The Mistake: You’ve had the same condom hanging out in your wallet forever.

The Potential Damage: Using a condom that hasn’t been properly stored might get you into a situation worse than the sexual slump you just endured. According to Herbenick, extreme heat or cold can damage the latex used in condoms, so the best spot for stashing them is a cool, dark, dry place—like in your nightstand—or a small, hard case (think: one made for business cards). And if you’re really trying to be a douche about the whole thing, might we suggest this $200 Swarovski crystal condom compact.

8. The Mistake: You’re not putting lube inside the condom.

The Potential Damage: Those marathon sex sessions you’ve been having (nice work, bro) are bound to wear down the condom, making it dry and prone to ripping. “Always use lube inside the condom. It prevents breakage and plus, it actually feels so much better for the condom wearer,” says Andelloux. Remember: check the type of lube before you apply, and just use a drop—too much can make the condom slip off.

9. The Mistake: You take the condom off before the sex is over.

The Potential Damage: If you're patting yourself on the back for using a condom in the first place... don't. Taking a condom off too early on into sex "can directly compromise the efficacy of condom use," according to a recent study from The Journal of Sexual Health. But you know that, silly! So if you play by the rules and keep that sucker on the entire time, it's 98 percent certain (see no. 6) you won't have to worry about becoming a daddy. (Just be sure you hold the base of the condom during withdrawal to make sure it doesn't slip off or leak you-know-what.)

10. The Mistake: You don’t need condoms—you’re a “pull-out pro.”

The Potential Damage: You might think you have impeccable timing, but even if you do pull out in time, it’s still possible to get her pregnant. How? According to Planned Parenthood, your pre-cum can pick up enough sperm left in your pipes from your last ejaculation to fertilize an egg. Whoa. Now, urinating between ejaculations might help, but as they say, it’s always safer to wrap it before you tap it—and the risk-taking for your non-sexual adventures.

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High School Nude Teen Girls

 Photos of nude teen girls linked to Cypress Bay High School

The anonymous online posting of nude student pictures has sparked a criminal investigation, and caused turmoil at Weston’s Cypress Bay High School.

An anonymous Web page filled with nude photos is highlighting the dangers of teenage “sexting” and may ultimately lead to criminal charges.

Students at Weston’s Cypress Bay High School believe one or more of their classmates to be responsible for the lurid website, which features more than a dozen sexually explicit photos of teenage girls. The site identifies them as Cypress Bay students — and in some cases, lists their names.

“That’s playing with people’s lives,” said Cypress Bay senior Matthew Gio, 17.

The Broward’s Sheriff’s Office is investigating the website as possible child pornography. It was taken offline late Monday.

The Internet photos went viral, with the link shared rapidly via Twitter. Many of Cypress Bay’s roughly 4,300 students pulled up the images on their smartphones — while still in the building.

It all amounted to a very public humiliation for this group of girls, who are primarily freshmen.

One of the photographed girls was spotted openly weeping at school; another abruptly walked out of class after an onslaught of stares and whispers.

“Oh gosh, it’s so horrible,” said Cherie Benjoseph, co-founder of the KidSafe Foundation, a South Florida-based nonprofit that works to protect children from exploitation and abuse.

Benjoseph said parents and schools can do a better job of teaching children and teens how to protect themselves online. For example, the importance of self-respect and personal boundaries could be incorporated into schools’ sex education classes, and parents can make it a point to scroll through their child’s smartphone.

The Broward School District referred all calls about the incident to BSO.

To be sure, the 21st-century phenomenon of “sexting,” sending explicit photos via text, isn’t limited to teens. Celebrities such as actress Vanessa Hudgens have watched in horror as leaked naked photos go viral on the Internet. Hudgens recently called her own photo scandal “by far the worst moment of my career.”

There’s always the chance that such pictures will leak out. In the case of minors, there’s the added complications of child pornography laws, and the fact that teenage brains are wired to be more reckless than adults.

At Cypress Bay, the photo fallout may linger for years. Benjoseph worries the affected teens “will want to hurt themselves. They will feel that this is not something that they can tolerate and live with … unless they have incredibly strong support. It’s very sad. It’s heartbreaking.”

On Twitter, where news of the photos traveled fast and furiously, comments ranged from sympathetic (“Wow. Feel bad for the girls,” one person wrote) to the you-brought-it-on-yourself variety.

“Exactly why I always say girls shouldn’t send nudes,” tweeted Kiki Estévez. “Once it’s SENT, they can do WHATEVER they want with it.”

Some Twitter users in fact forwarded the photos — apparently unaware that doing so could make them a target for criminal prosecution.

Janet Johnson, a Jacksonville criminal defense attorney, said adults who tweeted the photos or even forwarded the website link could wind up facing longer jail time than the teens who actually posted the pictures online. A key reason: Those teenagers, while still potentially facing the charge of disseminating child porn, would likely be tried in a more lenient juvenile court proceeding.

For adults convicted of spreading the images, a couple of years of prison time is a real possibility, Johnson said, even for first-time offenders. That conviction would also carry the label of being a registered sex offender.

“Once those images are on their phone or iPad or computer, even if they delete them, they’re in possession,” said Johnson, who handles numerous child porn cases. “They can’t wipe that off of their hard drive.”

Some Cypress Bay students were surprised that the photos remained online Friday.

BSO spokeswoman Veda Coleman-Wright said the agency was still working to identify the girls, and won’t request the website operator remove the page until it has confirmed that the girls are minors.

“It’s not that simple,” Coleman-Wright said. “You have to prove that a crime has been committed, that there is in fact illegal activity, before you can demand that a site be taken down.”

Cypress Bay students said at least some of the photos match the student names listed next to them, while others may not.

When it comes to academics, Cypress Bay has a stellar reputation, and the school enjoyed the rare honor of a commencement speech delivered by Vice President Joe Biden last year. But in only a decade or so of existence, Cypress Bay has had multiple sex scandals.

In 2009, police discovered a 17-year-old student using his smartphone to snap photos of girls while they were using the school restroom. Last year, police investigated a social studies teacher and wrestling coach who was accused of having an inappropriate sexual relationship with a student.

The student confirmed the romantic relationship, but said it was consensual, and she was 18 when it happened. Police did not file any criminal charges in that case.

 Tips for parents

Youth Crime Watch of Miami-Dade County offers these tips to help prevent your teen from becoming a sexting victim:

• Teach, don’t preach. Use recent news stories as “teachable moments’’ to talk to your teen about your guidelines for safe Internet, cellphone and social media behavior.

•  Encourage your teen to think before they send or post pictures and other personal information. Remember that every post from your teen is an electronic fingerprint that can damage their college careers, future employment opportunities, and their reputations.

•  Stay calm. If your teen confesses to sending or forwarding nude pictures of themselves, be supportive but take action. Tell them to stop immediately and delete any such files.

•  If an inappropriate photo is being forwarded without the subject’s permission, consider talking to the teen or the parents of the teen who is forwarding the photos.

•  Report the situation to local law enforcement or school administrators if necessary and be mindful of the potential criminal consequences.

•  Remind your teen that healthy relationships should be based on mutual respect as well as sexual attraction. Stress that boyfriends and girlfriends shouldn’t pressure them into sending explicit pictures. Get help if you suspect your teen has been a victim of sexting. Talk with your school counselor for guidance.

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How To Get A Girl To Send Nude Pics

Establish trust.

Trust is the most important aspect of this strategy. It doesn’t matter how many tricks of the trade you’re given; if you cannot get a girl to trust you, then she will not give you any nude pictures of her. Show that she can confide in you not to share certain information she would not want anyone else to know by keeping what she tells you close to your chest. This includes small things like the fact that she’s intensely afraid of kangaroos or the fact that she’s neurotic about matching colors in her wardrobe. Don’t make her feel judged for the things she shares, and even if you have an opinion, express that it doesn’t change how you feel about her and that you’re open to understanding her perspective. Once she feels she can trust you, the pathway to asking for nude pics becomes much smoother and clearer.

Make her feel desirable.

Stroking her ego is as important as ever right now. Play up her sexy attributes and assuage her insecurities by telling her how hot and sexy she is. You have to use sexually-charged words, but also be aware of inserting sensually-charged language as well. Most women want raw sensuality blended into their interactions with you. While most of the ways you’ll describe her drip with sexual fever, play on her need to feel like a goddess by telling her how beautiful she is, how gorgeous she is and how lovely her face or other less sexual features (soft skin and amazing hair are good examples) are. Even when she tries to downplay anything on her body, ignore it and tell her nobody’s perfect but she comes damn close for you.

Set the mood by being the example.

You’re the man, take control and take the lead. Being one-sided when it comes to sharing sexy, nude pics is completely unfair. Selfish sexting is as much of a turnoff as selfish foreplay and sends subtle indications that you are selfish in the sack. The best way to get her to send you nude pics is to start sending racy material yourself. As you flirt with her, send her something sexy, like a pic of you shirtless or the straining bulge of your thick erection in sweatpants. You can expose more as you like, but make it clear that you would love to see her reciprocate in kind. A word of caution: Don’t just give to get. Yes, set the example and put yourself out there first, but be comfortable with your body so there are no regrets in any of your actions. Share as you please in hopes she’ll reciprocate, but don’t create hard expectations that she’ll repay in kind.

Ask for what you want but respect her boundaries.

Whenever you’ve gotten her mood prepped just right, suggest that you’d love to see a sexy personal photo of her. Ask her for a pic, but show respect if she turns your request down for any reason. Don’t pressure her to change her mind, just apologize and keep the convo going. If you stop talking abruptly, she’ll read you as a jerk and you won’t get anything from her – ever.

Don’t share the goods!

Her pics are for your eyes only! Girls are aware of guys sharing their sexy photos with their friends, or even worse, putting them on those homegrown sites. Don’t ever share her pics with anyone, not even your best friend. Even if you break this rule, show them from your phone or your email, but do not forward their pictures!

Show appreciation!

You got the girl to send nude pics, now make sure she knows how much they turn you on by explicitly telling her what you’re thinking about as you gaze at them. This will allow her to feel comfortable and sexy enough to show more in the future.

Wash, rinse, repeat. Need one say more?

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